I just felt like a failure all weekend, lots of mind generated issues. Some of it was because all week in spite of working a ridiculous number of hours I felt like I had accomplished absolutely nothing. Opened up my calendar last night to see why? Why did I accomplish nothing? What was I doing? Also, although I had a packed long weekend with a very loving and affectionate family, I was not bursting with energy and joy to get this week started. Had I not stopped to look back on the week and weekend and count my blessings, I would not have had it in me to write this post. So this post is exclusively for those of you, who pile on days and days of blah-ness.
I realized that I had been to 22 meetings in the last week and hence the sense of zero accomplishments. Also, more than 7 or 8 wonderful little things had happened to me ( like my kitten finding my ear-ring that I lost 7 months ago, realizing that yes, I am loved more than I thought I was hated, a baby’s smile, a little kid’s hi with a cute smile, a long stare at the trees while lying down on the damp grass in a park, having a friend who spent hours in a store trying to figure out their system, just because I needed money etc.), but instead of being grateful for all of this, I chose to ignore them all, and continued to feel empty and dead from within. Have you ever stopped to think why? Why do you feel yucky and blah when something goes not the way you intended? Why do you feel uncomfortable on the inside and shut yourself off? Here is my theory / belief: As Love is our natural state, anything that isn’t in sync with that makes us feel unnatural/uncomfortable period.
I was watching the show Brain Games in Nat-Geo a couple weeks ago. Was fascinated by how our beliefs literally affect the way our brain functions. They scanned the brains of an Atheist, those who don’t believe in the theory of ‘God’ and a believer (of ‘God’, ‘miracles, ‘magic’ etc.) When asked to focus on that subject, you could see the lit portions of their pre-frontal cortex. For the atheist, even though they said they were focusing on this subject with everything they had, it was barely lit & for the believers (I feel the need to stress that this is a NON-RELIGIOUS blog and this post has nothing to do with God, it’s got everything to do with Belief, it can be belief on god, the force, the energy, the universe, love, or whatever you want to call it.), their pre-frontal cortex was lit up like the festival of Diwali. Okay, so what does all this mean?
The pre-frontal cortex is that portion of the brain, that has a huge ‘to-do’ list, but it also helps a major deal with developing your personality. Now that is something I think is important if you want to lead a happy life. If your personality is pleasant and nice and has a warm loving glow, fellow human beings, will love hanging out with you, and if not, well I don’t think I need to elaborate on that! 😉
Got this from my cousin last night:
In the Solomon Islands, the tribal folks don’t cut down a tree. They surround the tree and curse it for hours every day. Within a few weeks, the tree dries up and dies.
Many of us might find that example too difficult to believe. How can intangible and invisible thoughts and words kill a tree! Well, if you get to read Bruce H. Lipton’s THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF, you won’t only believe in the Solomon Islands story, but would also think a dozen times before saying something demoralizing to yourself and the people you love.
In this book, Mr. Lipton tells in detail about the power of conscious and subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is millions of times more powerful than the conscious mind, and decides most of the things in our lives according to the beliefs it has. Many times we fail to change an unpleasant habit despite our will-power and consistent efforts. It’s because the habit has been so strongly programmed in our subconscious mind that the efforts made by our conscious mind hardly make any effect.
Take the example of your laptop. Suppose it’s playing the songs you don’t want to hear. If you ask and kick the laptop to play your desired songs, it would hardly be able to do so. You will have to work on its software and change the song from there to get the result. In the same way, if you want to change your life in a far more effective way, you will have to get rid of the negative beliefs installed in our subconscious mind and reprogram it by installing new beliefs. These beliefs are so strong that they affect our cells and transform our genes as well. Mr. Lipton has devoted a full chapter on how it happens.
So, when the tribal folk of Solomon Islands curse a tree, they are actually installing negative and harmful beliefs in the tree’s mind (yes, trees do have minds too). Within a few days, those negative beliefs change the molecular architecture of the tree and kill it from inside.
2500 years ago, when the Buddha said that ‘you are what you think’, he was not articulating a random philosophical theory. He was telling a scientific fact which is now proved correct by Quantum Physics and Molecular Biology. While reading the book, I remembered how the Buddha had talked about subconscious mind and its unfathomable power over our lives. He called it Alay Vigyan which means stored consciousness. This is the part of mind where all our beliefs and experiences are stored; and they dictate our life from there.
The book has a special chapter on Conscious Parenting where it talks about the beneficial and harmful effects of what parents say to their children. If you are a parent and you keep cursing your child in the name of constructive criticism, you are installing beliefs in his mind which will keep harming him forever. But if you keep appreciating him in a sincere way, you are installing beliefs in his mind which will help him throughout his entire life.
And be careful of what you keep saying to yourself. Repetition of words and thoughts is the best way to install a belief in your subconscious mind. If you keep saying you are a loser, don’t be surprised if you become one within a few months or years. And if you have friends who keep saying such things to you, there is no harm in saying a quick goodbye to them. Maybe you value their friendship a lot. But you must value yourself a little more.
All of this sums up my 1 years post. Words have an effect, even on water molecules and what does not have water in it?! Your body is made up of so much water, the trees, the air, and when you vibrate in a frequency opposing Love, you end up creating an environment that is intolerable, for you and those around you.
Make a choice. I want to be in sync and feel happy / I want to wallow in sorrow and misery. Either way, you get what you want and those who don’t believe in magic, will never find it ! ❤
I am making a conscious choice NOW, to be the warm loving glow no matter what. What do you choose?