In the eyes of the beholder

Let me start by saying I am sorry for not posting every week like I used to. Unfortunately I had started telling myself that I was too busy, there wasn’t enough time, and I entered the “Oh poor me” realm in a snap. It is so easy to do that isn’t it? But I just had to share this Friday’s events.

After a semi-stressful day on Friday, I spent sometime with a colleague and his friends. This guy had just bought a Prius. Now I am a fan of Jeff Dunham and if you don’t know who I am talking about, watch the YouTube video of him and Walter called -Blue Prius. I personally have nothing against Prius, or Toyota for that matter,and although I did go for a ride in that car and I was pleasantly surprised, that video was the first review I had of the car, which put this idea in my head Prius’s were… well.. (watch the video). Anyways, he got teased every half hour, by his friends. He gets teased at work. I might have jeered at him as well (in a subtle fun way) 😉 when he said he was buying this car. Anyways, I was thinking about this all weekend and here is what shocks and astonishes me, I could not BELIEVE how freaking comfortable he was with all of this. He laughed and played along with it all. Nothing they said, affected him (and if it did, he did a damn good job of pretending it didn’t! ). It was incredible. But if it were me, I am sure I would not be O.K. with all that. It would have bothered me. So this post is for people who are more so like me.

Some how we got into the conversation of having a cat as a pet. Again, I LoVe animals. Had guinea pigs for a while. Love cats and dogs and absolutely anything that lives and breathes and is cuddly ( that includes mice, hamsters.. you know, the whole kit and caboodle). B.U.T. when I mentioned this & was questioned if the reasoning behind me not owning a cat was because I would be tagged the crazy cat lady, realization hit – yes indeed. Yes I am afraid of being the crazy cat lady. I was speaking to the most Spiritually awakened human being I have ever interacted with, Jeff & he laughed and said it’s believed that people buy pets when they are lonely ! I think it would be more socially acceptable if I had a weird little ferret, or a snake or a FrEaKiNg Pogona ( fancily called bearded dragons – actually look like lizards). But a Cat. God forbid a girl own a cat. But is that the societies problem? If you think it is, then well.. Surprise !!

The problem is with the self. Not being able to own a Prius or not being able to buy a cat without for a second, thinking “what would people say?” is my problem, not anyone else’s. And here I was thinking I was perfectly comfortable with who I was. Things that happened this Friday clearly proved me wrong. Quoting Will Smith (again 😉 ) ..

We Spend Money That We Don’t Have, To Buy Things We Don’t Need, To Impress People We Don’t Like ………..

or even know. Bottom-line though, we just want to be loved. We go to extents to accomplish that. Be more like him/her, do your hair, dress pretty, don’t eat carbs, strive to be a size zero, the biggest scam of it all ( which I have fallen for as well) is Fairness creams. Geez. I became so dark one summer, my whole family teased the life out of me. What does one do when that happens ? Turn to the fairness industry, cuz you are NEVER good enough. You are never OK for who you are. Indians use fairness creams. Americans go to artificial sun tan salons and spend a crap load of money to make them darker.

How does this stop? I believe, that when you completely accept yourself for who you TRULY are, and look on the inside for happiness, none of these social protocols, norms, will matter. NONE OF IT. How do you get comfortable with who you are? Put some work in. Read some inspirational books. Watch some motivational videos. Work on yourself. We spend so much time criticizing others, reading others, manipulating them, that we end up understanding others more than we understand ourselves.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

People are sometimes unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.

If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.

If you are happy, people maybe jealous. Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have & it may never be enough, give your best anyway.

For you see, in the end, it is between you and the higher self. It never was between you and them anyway.

Jz the way you are

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